The first mirror one faces in life is the mother’s gaze, through which one establishes a sense of self. An inadequate mirroring through the mother’s eyes instills in a child feelings of rejection, abandonment and shame, thus transferring narcissistic and identity deficits that imprint as trauma, void, deadness, lack of meaning.
Death and the pain that follows is an inherent life experience that everyone eventually has to face. The process of grief entails experiencing and managing the pain that follows the loss of a loved one and the effort to weave again the meaning of our life, after being shaken from bereavement, by reassessing our goals and priorities in life. Accepting and adjusting to loss is a long-term and active process that happens through complex and interrelated interactions with the important people in our families and communities.
Bonding and meaning as an antidote to trauma. The contribution of the attachment theory to the therapy of adults with traumatic experiences
Neglect, premature loss of close emotional bonds and abuse constitute serious traumas, which impact people's ability to achieve emotional attachment and give cohesive meaning to their life's experiences. Psychotherapy offers a context of emotional healing and reparation. The dialogical creation of psychic space where adults with traumatic experiences can tell their stories and establish a trusting relationship with the therapist is of great importance.